Decriminalizing homosexuality is an important step in the fight for gender equality.
When a gay man marries a straight woman, the woman ends up in a marriage where she is not love or wanted, but still has to perform all her wifely duties. The man can pretty much engage in homosexual extramarital affairs without any concern for the woman, as long as he keeps it on the down low. Meanwhile advisers will focus on the woman and blame his lack of interest and intimacy on her, urging her to pray, fast, dress attractive and become more submissive. As if a person can go lower than a doormat level.
When a gay woman marries a straight man, chances are that she will face abuse and rape in her marriage. Again, these are events that are considered normal and within the right of her husband. Why would a woman refuse to be intimate with her husband? A man who spent millions of naira to marry you?
I will always advocate for the decriminalization of homosexuality in Nigeria. It affects both men and women. However women suffer more daring consequences because of the patriarchy.
I do not wish for any straight woman to end up with a gay man or for any gay woman to end up with a straight man.
Gay men should be with gay men.
And gay women should be with gay women.
A less disastrous scenario would be for gay men and gay women to arrange to get married. I believe that they would protect each other's secret and make sure that none of them gets exposed to the cruelty of the society.
Homophobia is just another type of discrimination where women bear the harshest brunt.
Las las, na we dey carry last for everything.
When a gay man marries a straight woman, the woman ends up in a marriage where she is not love or wanted, but still has to perform all her wifely duties. The man can pretty much engage in homosexual extramarital affairs without any concern for the woman, as long as he keeps it on the down low. Meanwhile advisers will focus on the woman and blame his lack of interest and intimacy on her, urging her to pray, fast, dress attractive and become more submissive. As if a person can go lower than a doormat level.
When a gay woman marries a straight man, chances are that she will face abuse and rape in her marriage. Again, these are events that are considered normal and within the right of her husband. Why would a woman refuse to be intimate with her husband? A man who spent millions of naira to marry you?
I will always advocate for the decriminalization of homosexuality in Nigeria. It affects both men and women. However women suffer more daring consequences because of the patriarchy.
I do not wish for any straight woman to end up with a gay man or for any gay woman to end up with a straight man.
Gay men should be with gay men.
And gay women should be with gay women.
A less disastrous scenario would be for gay men and gay women to arrange to get married. I believe that they would protect each other's secret and make sure that none of them gets exposed to the cruelty of the society.
Homophobia is just another type of discrimination where women bear the harshest brunt.
Las las, na we dey carry last for everything.
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