But the two girls will meet at Bridge’s birthday party and develop an unbreakable bond.
Can you tell who Tiwa is and who Bridge is from the cover picture?
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Sunday, 11 December 2022
My First Book "When Johnny Sings" Is Live On Amazon
FEMINISM IS BIGGER THAN OUR PERSONAL BEEFS
Many times I have come across a post on Facebook, and I would start reading it, nodding to it, decide that I will drop a love reaction, then arrive to the end and find out that it has been written by someone I have fallen out with. It happens a lot with Ijeoma's posts. I read a lot of her posts on my timeline and I'd say over 90% of the time, I agree with what she writes. And recently it has been happening with Chinenye's posts.
When such a scenario presents itself, as it often does, I simply go ahead and do what I had planned to do while reading the post. I love it. It is the right thing to do. Whenever you react on a post or you comment on it, you increase its visibility. And if a message is worth spreading, it shouldn't matter if you nurture an antipathy for the writer or not. Still go ahead and spread it.
Besides I did not fall out with Ijeoma and Chinenye because we had differences about feminism. Our fall out was related to personal issues. Nevertheless, those personal issues are not important enough and will never be to overshadow the common cause that we all fight for, at least for me.
Even though I won this year, I would have been happy if either of them had won instead. Because like I said, they both preach the feminist gospel.
When feminists fall out with one another, people are always quick to attribute the cause to women's inability to be friends with another. And that's silly. Women are people, and people have unique personalities and characters, and sometimes, those personalities and characters are not compatible with someone else's.
Feminism is an ideology. It is not an indication of someone's personality or moral values. Feminists believe that men and women deserve equal rights and access to opportunities and resources. We advocate for women's humanity to be recognized. We push to dismantle double standards, manipulation, and gaslighting against women. And all of these are goals that we can successfully achieve without wanting to be in each other's space.
In conclusion, I want to appreciate Ijeoma and Chinenye for the amazing work that they have been doing to push forth the feminist agenda. I also want to thank all the other ladies that were nominated, and even the ones that were not nominated.
We have really come a long way. Take it from someone whose advocacy started in 2005 on Nairaland when we were a dozen of feminists fighting against a horde of patriarchists.
Cheers to Feminism.
It is what matters in the end.
FUCK YOU, BIDEMI
Back in 2012, I became friends with this guy who didn't think much about his words before expelling them.
The first time he misspoke he compared me to the lady in the pictures and insisted that I'd become like her when I grow older. He meant in physique. Knowing my type of body and knowing what the lady looked liked, I rebuffed him with conviction. But dude wouldn't give up.
The issue wasn't that the lady did not have a good physique. She did but there was no way that I could grow to become as fat and thick as her. I'm slightly taller than her and almost devoid of fat in my upper region. To be honest, the comparison made no sense since even my mother, whom I look like and whom he saw very often, did not look like the lady.
The second time he misspoke, we were having a random when, out of the blue, he made a comment about my smile and concluded with a very unflattering one about my face.
Until a few years ago, I had been very insecure about my face. Hormonal acne dealt with me so much that I struggled to accept compliments about how beautiful my skin looked several years after the condition had passed. And now this dude was saying this. That was it. I ended the friendship right there and never spoke to him again.
I had also sent him a message to explain how badly he had hurt me.
He replied: I said I'm sorry. If that's not enough, I don't care.
Lol.
Also, I had heard them gossip about people and it was not pretty at all. These two young men in their 20s spent an entire afternoon saying nonsense about random people.
Smh.
Anyway, if his plan was to devalue me so that I wouldn't feel like I deserved better than his friend, then he failed.
My issue with his friend was never about his looks. He was cute even though he was lacking in personality. It was rather the absence of valuable grey material in his skull that made the relationship a total pain. We hardly ever had any meaningful conversations and when I tried to engage him, he'd spit out some very ignorant stuff. The most annoying part was that he thought of himself as such a (street) smart guy. The worst.
And no matter how ugly and unattractive he had made me felt, I Mavis would never have seen his stupid friend as a godsend.
Anyway, dude got married a few years ago.
I don't know if he's still friends with the ex.
And no, his wife is not as pretty as me. 
MY FIRST CHRISTMAS TREE EVER!
I had this idea of setting up a tree that was a reflection of all the good things that have happened to me. I wanted it to be an expression of love. I wanted it to radiate positivity.
This tree was a Christmas miracle.Thanks to my Facebook friends and followers who responded to my post. Thank you for the kind words. May all that you wished me become a reality in your lives too.
Merry Christmas in advance, everybody.
My heart is warm with love. 
MEN WHO DRESS UP AS WOMEN FOR COMEDY ARE DISGUSTING
Anyway, I took a stroll to his page, and to say that I'm disgusted is an understatement. This is yet another man who centred his comedy around a female character that he created.
I watched just one video and it was enough for me. In the said video, this man playing a dirty and razz version of a woman was advising women to desist from keeping female friends because women are "very jealous". Ah!
Is this what passes for comedy these days???
Just look at the nasty thing of a character.
Wearing a bra on his head like the mad entity that he is.
WHIM vs PRACTICALITY
1. You don't like people wearing shoes in your house.
This is practicality.
I remember that I used to do this in Nigeria. A lot of Asian countries observe this culture.
In fact, the Japanese are so particular about hygiene that they even have slippers that can only be worn inside the house (they reserve some pairs for their guests) and slippers that are only meant for the bathroom.
This is a request that I wouldn't frown at, but would observe diligently and even emulate if I ever spend thousands of dollars to buy a Persian rug.
2. You don't like people wearing certain clothes to your house
This is a whim.
Neither you nor the environment you live in will suffer any type of consequences because of the clothes that a person is putting on. You are just being a bigot and a control freak.
We must really stop attaching morals to people's choice of clothes. How people dress is not a reflection of their character. The most wicked people I have ever met in this life literally dressed like Nollywood housekeepers.
We can criticize someone's choice of clothes if they do not fit the occasion, but setting up a dress code for your guests is completely unacceptable.
Right now, I believe that many people are wearing love goggles so they do not see how ridiculous that kind of request is. Because if it was some random person telling them that they cannot come to his or her house wearing synthetic hair, they would tell that person to go and hug a tree.
But right now, the person is a prospective in-law and there is marriage involved, so it makes sense to "bend" that one time. Except, it is not.
Even if I were a skirt person and I had plenty of skirts in my wardrobe, I wouldn't accept wearing a skirt every time your bigotted parent is around. I dress according to my mood and the way I am feeling my body on that particular day. So if it's a no-skirt day for me, I won't wear it, and if I wear it, I won't be happy.
I have had really bad days because I was wearing clothes/shoes that I did not feel like wearing.
Clothes are something very personal to me. They are ways in which I express myself. When you impose a dress code on me without a practical reason attached to it, other than "I don't like it", I receive it as a threat to my freedom of expression.
So, drop the love goggles and think of this within a bigger context.
Today it's your trousers, tomorrow it will be something else.
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