1. Women are first of all nurturers.
The society has said it: your highest achievement as a woman is to get married and have kids, everything else is secondary.
If your education or your job is hindering you from attaining this goal, quit them. It is better to be an uneducated wife and mother than to be a childless and unmarried professional.
2. Marriage is your reward for being a good girl
Women who observe the societal code of decorum, modesty and silence will be chosen to fulfil the ultimate roles of mother and wife. There is no greater satisfaction than catering to a man and tending to his offspring.
3. Women are frail and pure.
A woman is not supposed to involve herself in hefty tasks, even thinking. Yes, thinking is too much for a woman to handle. Leave the thinking for men and rest your pretty little head. The natural predisposition for women is to sit down and look pretty. Let thy groin rise upon sighting thy fragile wrists.
Even though a woman can do it, she should avoid doing it. Don't be strong. Don't be forward. Don't be demanding. Accept what you get and pray you receive what you want.
Remain pure and untouched. Nobody wants a used car. They only buy it because they cannot afford a brand new one.
4. Women should not involve themselves in politics.
This belief stems from the idea that women are fragile and pure, while politics is dirty and rude. Men are allowed to get dirty and rude because men are allowed to call on their primitive instincts. Instead women should distance themselves from their primitive instincts as much as possible, especially the ones that do not align with the whole concept of frailness and purity.
5. Women should not be too ambitious.
This belief stems from the idea that a woman is supposed to be more invested in other people (parents, sibling, husbands, kids, in-laws), than in herself. A woman is not allowed to be selfish or have a sense of personal identity. Her individuality is suppressed at a young age and she grows up to be an extension of everybody around her.
She is only free to go when the person that owns her in that moment decides that she is free to go.
6. Women should not retaliate
For you to want to retaliate against a person or a system, it means that not only can you process hurt and identify it, but that you can relate it to your own self instead of fragmenting it based on the many people that depend on you to depend on them. In other words, you care about yourself more than you care about others. This is dangerous.
A woman's hurt is never suppose to surpass the care she nurtures for other people, or the society at large.
7. A woman should not show emotions that will corrupt her beauty.
Anger, resentment, suspicion, are all ugly emotions. They are not flattering to the women who express them, neither do they benefit the person at the receiving end.
Women should strive at all times to hide these ugly emotions. If they can't contain them, they should look for a private place where they can't be seen or heard by anybody and unleash them quietly.
Any woman who wishes to maintain an image of class and maturity must maintain an appearance of calmness in public. Angry women look like savages. Savages are not pretty.
8. A woman is not supposed to be more successful than a man.
I'm sure you must have heard someone, man or woman say something in the line of "If you give a woman an opportunity, she will misuse it and start acting arrogant".
Arrogance is another ugly trait that a woman is not supposed to possess. Women are meant to be humble and submissive, not confident and subversive. A woman in a position of authority can make moves to change the rules.
Aim to be the First Lady, not president. Aspire to marry a governor, not become a governor. Aspire to marry a doctor, lawyer, teacher, but do not aspire to become one. Dim your light. Defract it if you must show yourself. Never be a wholesome of awesomeness.
It will hurt our eyes.
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The world is ruled by straight caucasian men. They have decided that if you are not heterosexual, white and a male, then there is something wrong with you.
They are willing to tolerate you, as long as you play by their rules. Women are not exempted from these rules.
They have decided that the outward appearance of a woman is more important than her inward abilities. The women is merely a container: to contain a man's penis and host his seed.
According to Aristotle, women are half men and according to Freud, women live their entire life envying the penis.
The day straight white women started taking advantage of the very system that was meant to subjugate and oppress them, straight white men decided that patriarchy also hurt men and mobilised to de-institutionalize it.
The society has said it: your highest achievement as a woman is to get married and have kids, everything else is secondary.
If your education or your job is hindering you from attaining this goal, quit them. It is better to be an uneducated wife and mother than to be a childless and unmarried professional.
2. Marriage is your reward for being a good girl
Women who observe the societal code of decorum, modesty and silence will be chosen to fulfil the ultimate roles of mother and wife. There is no greater satisfaction than catering to a man and tending to his offspring.
3. Women are frail and pure.
A woman is not supposed to involve herself in hefty tasks, even thinking. Yes, thinking is too much for a woman to handle. Leave the thinking for men and rest your pretty little head. The natural predisposition for women is to sit down and look pretty. Let thy groin rise upon sighting thy fragile wrists.
Even though a woman can do it, she should avoid doing it. Don't be strong. Don't be forward. Don't be demanding. Accept what you get and pray you receive what you want.
Remain pure and untouched. Nobody wants a used car. They only buy it because they cannot afford a brand new one.
4. Women should not involve themselves in politics.
This belief stems from the idea that women are fragile and pure, while politics is dirty and rude. Men are allowed to get dirty and rude because men are allowed to call on their primitive instincts. Instead women should distance themselves from their primitive instincts as much as possible, especially the ones that do not align with the whole concept of frailness and purity.
5. Women should not be too ambitious.
This belief stems from the idea that a woman is supposed to be more invested in other people (parents, sibling, husbands, kids, in-laws), than in herself. A woman is not allowed to be selfish or have a sense of personal identity. Her individuality is suppressed at a young age and she grows up to be an extension of everybody around her.
She is only free to go when the person that owns her in that moment decides that she is free to go.
6. Women should not retaliate
For you to want to retaliate against a person or a system, it means that not only can you process hurt and identify it, but that you can relate it to your own self instead of fragmenting it based on the many people that depend on you to depend on them. In other words, you care about yourself more than you care about others. This is dangerous.
A woman's hurt is never suppose to surpass the care she nurtures for other people, or the society at large.
7. A woman should not show emotions that will corrupt her beauty.
Anger, resentment, suspicion, are all ugly emotions. They are not flattering to the women who express them, neither do they benefit the person at the receiving end.
Women should strive at all times to hide these ugly emotions. If they can't contain them, they should look for a private place where they can't be seen or heard by anybody and unleash them quietly.
Any woman who wishes to maintain an image of class and maturity must maintain an appearance of calmness in public. Angry women look like savages. Savages are not pretty.
8. A woman is not supposed to be more successful than a man.
I'm sure you must have heard someone, man or woman say something in the line of "If you give a woman an opportunity, she will misuse it and start acting arrogant".
Arrogance is another ugly trait that a woman is not supposed to possess. Women are meant to be humble and submissive, not confident and subversive. A woman in a position of authority can make moves to change the rules.
Aim to be the First Lady, not president. Aspire to marry a governor, not become a governor. Aspire to marry a doctor, lawyer, teacher, but do not aspire to become one. Dim your light. Defract it if you must show yourself. Never be a wholesome of awesomeness.
It will hurt our eyes.
-------------
The world is ruled by straight caucasian men. They have decided that if you are not heterosexual, white and a male, then there is something wrong with you.
They are willing to tolerate you, as long as you play by their rules. Women are not exempted from these rules.
They have decided that the outward appearance of a woman is more important than her inward abilities. The women is merely a container: to contain a man's penis and host his seed.
According to Aristotle, women are half men and according to Freud, women live their entire life envying the penis.
The day straight white women started taking advantage of the very system that was meant to subjugate and oppress them, straight white men decided that patriarchy also hurt men and mobilised to de-institutionalize it.
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