Tacha is way too loud, straightforward, quick to react, poorly equipped with social skills to be a narcissist. Female narcissists usually have good social skills, love male attention, are mean to women and particularly nice to men, and love to suck up to authority.
Unlike a narcissist, the girl nor sabi cunny or manipulation. She doesn't engage in smear campaigns either. She only bitches about people who have offended her. All Tacha does is get angry, shout, say mean things while she's angry and cool off. She's like a pressure cooker: quick to heat up, and quick to cool off too.
If Tacha were a narcissist, she'd still be in that house.
Last year, I called Cee C a narcissist and a psychopath, not because she's quarrelsome, but because I noticed traits that are particular of people who suffer from those disorders:
1. She is callous. She doesn't apply emotional filter to what she says and how she says it.
2. She's controlling. If you are her friend, you have to like what she likes and dislike what she dislikes.
3. She seeks opinions and reacts negatively when that opinion does not match her thought.
4. She's slimy. Remember when she announced on national TV that Tobi and Alex had sex?
5. She's a pathological liar, and she seemed to sometimes forget her own lies.
But even then, my judgment was harsh, which is why I later retracted it.
Cee C does not possess the cold bloodedness and intelligence that is typical of psychopaths. And I doubt that she was born without empathy. She most likely lost it as a result of her spoilt upbringing. She definitely possessed narcissistic traits, but I was still wrong to have called her a narcissist. She's more like a spoilt brat who's very conscious of her surrounding.
Tacha on her part, totally lacks all the main characteristics of a narcissistic. She's toxic, no doubt, but she's not cunning, manipulative, or controlling. She doesn't gaslight either. What you see is exactly what you get. She did not come to the house wearing a fake persona. Right from the very minute she was introduced, she made it clear that she was in for whatever trouble you had in mind for her. She's a bragger, but that was part of her strategy to intimidate her opponents. Just like wrestlers do before a match. She went to that house knowing full well that Nigerians had a low opinion of her. She wanted to raise the bar. Remember how she was shamed by a woman who spotted her at the auditions and called her an Instagram prostitute? Remember how everybody thought that she was going to give the viewers first class porn? Her strategy was weak though because BB is not about being the loudest and putting on a bravado. It's all about social skills and fan servicing.
Two people understood that and that's why they are the strongest contestants in that house: Mike and Mercy. Mike is even stronger than Mercy. They both know that BB is a psychological game. You have to identify those housemates who are more likely to be fan favourites and try and get rid of them. How? By trying to push them to break rules and nominating them consistently.
Mike targetted Frodd and Tacha, while Mercy targeted Tacha. They are the cleverest people in that house. They are not smart, but they are extremely clever.
In a white country, both Mercy and Mike would have been evicted a long time ago. Oyibos sabi smell rubbish from afar. Go to HONY and see them dropping textbook psychology.
In Nigeria we are too clueless. We can't distinguish people like Tacha who are putting on a bravado from people like Mike and Mercy who are outright fake.
Like I said, Tacha's problems are not the type that cannot be resolved. There is definitely room for improvement. She's empathetic. She just can't control her emotions.
But you see Mike and Mercy? Tueh. They have zero empathy and have a lot of control. Mike, even more than Mercy. Unlike Mercy, Mike has never exposed himself. We had to be the ones to figure him out. That's how coded the man is.
I have high hopes for Tacha. More than I had for Cee C. She will grow into a wonderful person. Give her a couple of years.
This failure was necessary for her to face her personal challenges. She will be fine.
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