Good girl. Poser. Bad girl. Lost girl.
All four are the result of a toxic upbringing or a particularly traumatic event which altered their original identities or completely erased them.
But what determines the kind of girl you will become?
Why don't we all become good girls or bad girls or lost girls?
The reason why girls react differently to toxicity or trauma is because like I said, as babies, we are not the same and we are not born empty.
Babies possess instinct, a personality and intelligence. Yes, some babies are smarter than others. Even though intelligence is an aspect that we can improve with time, just like our personalities, you can pretty much tell those babies who are particularly smart for their age.
In terms of personalities, there are many different types of personality traits, and, because, I can't afford to analyze them one by one, I'll simplify the this aspect by dividing girls into three groups: extroverts, introverts, ambiverts.
Extroverts are people who love to relate with other people. They are easy and out going. They seek social contact without which they'd be gloomy and blue.
Introverts are people who love to be in solitude. They are not fond of social gatherings and tend to isolate themselves when they are in a crowd. They function better in private and intimate settings.
Ambiverts are people who function well both in social gatherings and in private. They can go for weeks or months without having the need to interact with people. And when they are with other people, they are fun and sociable.
Now, let's talk about intelligence. Again, because there are many types of intelligence, I can't deal with all of them. So I'll go for the one that deals with the ability to observe, collect and elaborate data. And I'll divide it into three groups: low intelligence, average intelligence and high intelligence.
Now let's combine our three personalities with the three types of intelligence.
Extrovert and low intelligence.
Extrovert and average intelligence.
Extrovert and high intelligence.
Introvert and low intelligence.
Introvert and average intelligence.
Introvert and high intelligence.
Ambivert and low intelligence.
Ambivert and average intelligence.
Ambivert and high intelligence.
Who are more likely to become good girls?
Extrovert with low intelligence.
Introverts with low intelligence.
Introverts with average intelligence.
Ambiverts with low intelligence.
Who are more likely to become posers?
Introverts with high intelligence.
Extroverts with average intelligence.
Ambiverts with average intelligence.
Who are more likely to become bad girls?
Extroverts with high intelligence.
Ambiverts with high intelligence.
Who are more likely to become lost girls?
Pretty much anybody.
Note 1. Introverts with average intelligence.
They are more likely to become good girls, but not because they are not capable of understanding their toxic surrounding, but because their personality allows them to accommodate toxicity.
Note 2. Introverts with high intelligence.
This group is extremely dangerous. This group is where you will find people with anti-social personality disorders (sociopath/psychopath) posing as good girls. Even though science says that there are more male anti-social than female anti-socials, female sociopaths still exist. And they are dangerous because they appear to be totally harmless, which can give them the confidence that they will get away with doing terrible things.
Note 3. Extroverts/Ambiverts with high intelligence.
Another group at risk of developing an anti-social personality disorder. Since they are so intelligent, and they can figure people and their surroundings out, they are more likely to attain positions of power or fame. However, they might never engage in anti-social behaviours since they have too much to lose.
Note 4. Extroverts with average intelligence.
These girls are more like to be the narcissists. One particularity about narcissists is that their opinion about themselves do not match reality. Narcissists are not smarter, cuter, richer or generally better than anybody else. They just believe that they are. They are usually average people who desire to be more and end up convincing themselves that they are more.
Note 5. Anybody can become a lost girl.
This loss might be a one time thing, last for a period of time or carry on forever, but we all can lose ourserves and embrace hurt as our new identity.
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The society's intention is to raise good girls, but unfortunately, only few girls will become good girls. The majority of girls will become posers, followed by lost girls, bad girls and at last good girls.
Believe it or not, but good girls are in the minority. And that's because people of average intelligence constitute the majority of the world population, while introverts make less than half of the population.
This means that in Nigeria, you are more likely to meet a poser than an actual good girl. Which makes sense. Many women make excellent wives but are horrible mothers and friends. How would you explain that otherwise?
The world is full of deceit, so always look before you leap.
All four are the result of a toxic upbringing or a particularly traumatic event which altered their original identities or completely erased them.
But what determines the kind of girl you will become?
Why don't we all become good girls or bad girls or lost girls?
The reason why girls react differently to toxicity or trauma is because like I said, as babies, we are not the same and we are not born empty.
Babies possess instinct, a personality and intelligence. Yes, some babies are smarter than others. Even though intelligence is an aspect that we can improve with time, just like our personalities, you can pretty much tell those babies who are particularly smart for their age.
In terms of personalities, there are many different types of personality traits, and, because, I can't afford to analyze them one by one, I'll simplify the this aspect by dividing girls into three groups: extroverts, introverts, ambiverts.
Extroverts are people who love to relate with other people. They are easy and out going. They seek social contact without which they'd be gloomy and blue.
Introverts are people who love to be in solitude. They are not fond of social gatherings and tend to isolate themselves when they are in a crowd. They function better in private and intimate settings.
Ambiverts are people who function well both in social gatherings and in private. They can go for weeks or months without having the need to interact with people. And when they are with other people, they are fun and sociable.
Now, let's talk about intelligence. Again, because there are many types of intelligence, I can't deal with all of them. So I'll go for the one that deals with the ability to observe, collect and elaborate data. And I'll divide it into three groups: low intelligence, average intelligence and high intelligence.
Now let's combine our three personalities with the three types of intelligence.
Extrovert and low intelligence.
Extrovert and average intelligence.
Extrovert and high intelligence.
Introvert and low intelligence.
Introvert and average intelligence.
Introvert and high intelligence.
Ambivert and low intelligence.
Ambivert and average intelligence.
Ambivert and high intelligence.
Who are more likely to become good girls?
Extrovert with low intelligence.
Introverts with low intelligence.
Introverts with average intelligence.
Ambiverts with low intelligence.
Who are more likely to become posers?
Introverts with high intelligence.
Extroverts with average intelligence.
Ambiverts with average intelligence.
Who are more likely to become bad girls?
Extroverts with high intelligence.
Ambiverts with high intelligence.
Who are more likely to become lost girls?
Pretty much anybody.
Note 1. Introverts with average intelligence.
They are more likely to become good girls, but not because they are not capable of understanding their toxic surrounding, but because their personality allows them to accommodate toxicity.
Note 2. Introverts with high intelligence.
This group is extremely dangerous. This group is where you will find people with anti-social personality disorders (sociopath/psychopath) posing as good girls. Even though science says that there are more male anti-social than female anti-socials, female sociopaths still exist. And they are dangerous because they appear to be totally harmless, which can give them the confidence that they will get away with doing terrible things.
Note 3. Extroverts/Ambiverts with high intelligence.
Another group at risk of developing an anti-social personality disorder. Since they are so intelligent, and they can figure people and their surroundings out, they are more likely to attain positions of power or fame. However, they might never engage in anti-social behaviours since they have too much to lose.
Note 4. Extroverts with average intelligence.
These girls are more like to be the narcissists. One particularity about narcissists is that their opinion about themselves do not match reality. Narcissists are not smarter, cuter, richer or generally better than anybody else. They just believe that they are. They are usually average people who desire to be more and end up convincing themselves that they are more.
Note 5. Anybody can become a lost girl.
This loss might be a one time thing, last for a period of time or carry on forever, but we all can lose ourserves and embrace hurt as our new identity.
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The society's intention is to raise good girls, but unfortunately, only few girls will become good girls. The majority of girls will become posers, followed by lost girls, bad girls and at last good girls.
Believe it or not, but good girls are in the minority. And that's because people of average intelligence constitute the majority of the world population, while introverts make less than half of the population.
This means that in Nigeria, you are more likely to meet a poser than an actual good girl. Which makes sense. Many women make excellent wives but are horrible mothers and friends. How would you explain that otherwise?
The world is full of deceit, so always look before you leap.
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