I have seen this statement by men many times on social media. These men also state that men do not like unmarried women who:
- wear artificial hair;
- fix artificial nails;
- drive big and expensive cars;
- live in a rich neighbourhood;
- have properties;
- have post graduate degrees;
- are ambitious;
- dress fashionably.
All of it is a lie. It's a big time lie.
First of all, if you take a look at the men who make these blanket statements you will find out that they are either poor or barely comfortable. So their reasons for making these statements have very little to do with their personal taste and everything to do with their financial status.
These men have a problem with women who do all of the things in that list because they have a problem with women who are high maintenance.
It doesn't matter whether the woman is doing the maintenance by herself or relying on her lover to do it. They just don't like it because they cannot afford it.
Also, In Nigeria, once a woman looks good, drives a nice car and lives in a nice apartment, men start labelling her a runsgirl. I posted a picture of myself in an ordinary bedroom and some men started asking who paid for the hotel room.
Just like every other man Nigeria, poor or struggling men believe that they should have any woman they want. Nevertheless they cannot stand the idea that people might wonder why a particular type of woman is with them, since their status is lower than hers.
A rich or wealthy man will never ever say that he has problems with his woman wearing make up or fixing her nails. Because if need be, he can comfortably fund her lifestyle.
Ned is not the kind of man people expected Regina to end up with. Regina is young, beautiful and is doing well for herself. She could have easily found a young and dashing young man to date or marry, if she so desired. But she chose Ned, and people started wondering why, even though they knew already.
Ned also knows why Regina is with him, but he also knows that Regina might never find another man who can give her what he is giving her. He's in the 0.1%, against Regina who's in the 20%. Billionaires like him are scarce, while young, beautiful and high maintenance women like Regina are many.
Unfortunately the reality of the average Nigerian man is not the same as Ned's. The average Nigerian man is poor. Then right above the average, we have a majority that is barely comfortable. The average Nigerian man is in the 95%. Men like them abound, while high maintenance women like Regina are a lot less in comparison.
Why don't these leave the women in the 20% alone then, and find one among the 80%?
Well, for starters they don't find the women in the 80% desirable. Secondly, the women in the 80% want a man that is at least in the 5%.
It would seem like a contradiction that poor men like high maintenance women, but they also want these high maintenance women to look like low maintenance women.
First of all, everybody wants the finest things in life, including those people who cannot afford those things.
Secondly, there is the thrill that comes with acquiring a priced possession. There is no satisfaction in dating low maintenance women. She's either low maintenance because she's poor or because she's trying to bag a man. Easy thing.
On the other hand, there is a lot of satisfaction that comes from being able to successfully woo and date a high maintenance woman. And even more satisfaction from being able to mould this high maintenance woman to reflect his own status.
So when next you come across a man who says "Men don't like women who [are high maintenance]", take it as a big red flag, and flee. No matter how cute he is, do not ignore the red flag.
If you are a high maintenance woman, date and marry men who are comfortable with being with a high maintenance woman.
If you are a low maintenance woman who is working to upgrade herself, avoid dating men who are not comfortable with high maintenance women.
- wear artificial hair;
- fix artificial nails;
- drive big and expensive cars;
- live in a rich neighbourhood;
- have properties;
- have post graduate degrees;
- are ambitious;
- dress fashionably.
All of it is a lie. It's a big time lie.
First of all, if you take a look at the men who make these blanket statements you will find out that they are either poor or barely comfortable. So their reasons for making these statements have very little to do with their personal taste and everything to do with their financial status.
These men have a problem with women who do all of the things in that list because they have a problem with women who are high maintenance.
It doesn't matter whether the woman is doing the maintenance by herself or relying on her lover to do it. They just don't like it because they cannot afford it.
Also, In Nigeria, once a woman looks good, drives a nice car and lives in a nice apartment, men start labelling her a runsgirl. I posted a picture of myself in an ordinary bedroom and some men started asking who paid for the hotel room.
Just like every other man Nigeria, poor or struggling men believe that they should have any woman they want. Nevertheless they cannot stand the idea that people might wonder why a particular type of woman is with them, since their status is lower than hers.
A rich or wealthy man will never ever say that he has problems with his woman wearing make up or fixing her nails. Because if need be, he can comfortably fund her lifestyle.
Ned is not the kind of man people expected Regina to end up with. Regina is young, beautiful and is doing well for herself. She could have easily found a young and dashing young man to date or marry, if she so desired. But she chose Ned, and people started wondering why, even though they knew already.
Ned also knows why Regina is with him, but he also knows that Regina might never find another man who can give her what he is giving her. He's in the 0.1%, against Regina who's in the 20%. Billionaires like him are scarce, while young, beautiful and high maintenance women like Regina are many.
Unfortunately the reality of the average Nigerian man is not the same as Ned's. The average Nigerian man is poor. Then right above the average, we have a majority that is barely comfortable. The average Nigerian man is in the 95%. Men like them abound, while high maintenance women like Regina are a lot less in comparison.
Why don't these leave the women in the 20% alone then, and find one among the 80%?
Well, for starters they don't find the women in the 80% desirable. Secondly, the women in the 80% want a man that is at least in the 5%.
It would seem like a contradiction that poor men like high maintenance women, but they also want these high maintenance women to look like low maintenance women.
First of all, everybody wants the finest things in life, including those people who cannot afford those things.
Secondly, there is the thrill that comes with acquiring a priced possession. There is no satisfaction in dating low maintenance women. She's either low maintenance because she's poor or because she's trying to bag a man. Easy thing.
On the other hand, there is a lot of satisfaction that comes from being able to successfully woo and date a high maintenance woman. And even more satisfaction from being able to mould this high maintenance woman to reflect his own status.
So when next you come across a man who says "Men don't like women who [are high maintenance]", take it as a big red flag, and flee. No matter how cute he is, do not ignore the red flag.
If you are a high maintenance woman, date and marry men who are comfortable with being with a high maintenance woman.
If you are a low maintenance woman who is working to upgrade herself, avoid dating men who are not comfortable with high maintenance women.
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