I am happy that many and more people are having the conversation about self love and how to walk away from toxic situations.
I remember that many years ago, Nigerians were still obtuse in regard to disrespect and abuse, especially when they came from high ranking members of the society.
Many years ago, a woman came to a Nigerian forum to report her husband. She had caught him in their matrimonial bed with another woman on Val's day. Needless say that the advice she got were pitiful.
Only I and a handful of other women raised concern about the man's total disregard towards her. We were called names: stupid, immature, and many more. But we stood our ground.
Cheating is a form of abuse and, just like any other form of abuse, it has the purpose of exercising control over the victim. That is why I maintain that people who cheat do not cheat just for the sake of cheating. There is always an end to their behaviour.
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Until ten years ago, a conversation about toxic parents, especially mothers, would have been a taboo. "How dare you say that you don't love your mother, or that you even hate her and never wish to see her ever again?"
What about conversations about pastors? Could Busola have come out to expose the rape by Fatoyimbo ten years ago? Could we talk boldly about how these men and women of God are robbing us blind and leading us into misery, and sometimes to our death, with their inconsiderate advice?
Could Tonto have come out, called her ex-husband a narcissist, and got the attention of people? Did the public even know about personality disorders?
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Social media has been a blessing to us as a nation. Yes, there are many of us who are still hung up on harmful beliefs and ideas, but at least, we are being given the chance to have conversations among ourselves. Over time, people are becoming more attentive to the kind of information they post online, as the result of a society that is becoming more critical of cultures and practices that threaten the rights and freedom of the individual.
This year alone, situations that would have been otherwise swept under the carpet, sparked discussions, which led to the culprit being questioned about their conduct. Even though we didn't get the justice that we championed for, we still put these evil doers on the spotlight to let them know that "you can't do that".
Right now, I am on my own journey to becoming the best version of myself, and, as part of this journey, I have let go of everything that does not serve a purpose in my life. So, if you are still in my space, it is because I need you to be.
We may not be able to achieve a drastic change before we depart from this world, but someway, somehow, we will create a ripple and the effect will be felt nationwide.
I remember that many years ago, Nigerians were still obtuse in regard to disrespect and abuse, especially when they came from high ranking members of the society.
Many years ago, a woman came to a Nigerian forum to report her husband. She had caught him in their matrimonial bed with another woman on Val's day. Needless say that the advice she got were pitiful.
Only I and a handful of other women raised concern about the man's total disregard towards her. We were called names: stupid, immature, and many more. But we stood our ground.
Cheating is a form of abuse and, just like any other form of abuse, it has the purpose of exercising control over the victim. That is why I maintain that people who cheat do not cheat just for the sake of cheating. There is always an end to their behaviour.
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Until ten years ago, a conversation about toxic parents, especially mothers, would have been a taboo. "How dare you say that you don't love your mother, or that you even hate her and never wish to see her ever again?"
What about conversations about pastors? Could Busola have come out to expose the rape by Fatoyimbo ten years ago? Could we talk boldly about how these men and women of God are robbing us blind and leading us into misery, and sometimes to our death, with their inconsiderate advice?
Could Tonto have come out, called her ex-husband a narcissist, and got the attention of people? Did the public even know about personality disorders?
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Social media has been a blessing to us as a nation. Yes, there are many of us who are still hung up on harmful beliefs and ideas, but at least, we are being given the chance to have conversations among ourselves. Over time, people are becoming more attentive to the kind of information they post online, as the result of a society that is becoming more critical of cultures and practices that threaten the rights and freedom of the individual.
This year alone, situations that would have been otherwise swept under the carpet, sparked discussions, which led to the culprit being questioned about their conduct. Even though we didn't get the justice that we championed for, we still put these evil doers on the spotlight to let them know that "you can't do that".
Right now, I am on my own journey to becoming the best version of myself, and, as part of this journey, I have let go of everything that does not serve a purpose in my life. So, if you are still in my space, it is because I need you to be.
We may not be able to achieve a drastic change before we depart from this world, but someway, somehow, we will create a ripple and the effect will be felt nationwide.
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