A child who is used to getting everything that he or she wants will never develop the ability to differentiate between what he or she wants from what he or she needs. Which means that they will grow up to see all their desires as essential and most importantly as other's people's responsibilities.
"My parents gave me all I needed, now everybody else has to give me all I need".
Their sense of entitlement is out of this world, which is why, they could use both legitimate and illegitimate means to get what they want.
They do not have a sense of satiety since their desires are not subject to the laws of compartmentalization: what I want, what I need and what I need but I could do without for the time being.
Everything they want is everything they need. And everything they have cannot be disposed until they are able to replace it with something fancier.
They are avaricious.
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Children who never got what they wanted or got just a little of it, will most likely have the same problem: the ability to differentiate what they want from what they need.
Since most of their desires were never fulfilled, they never possessed the object for the sufficient amount of time they needed to realise that they do not really need this.
While it's true that you cannot miss what you never had, you cannot also learn its usefulness or useleseness. So it becomes this unfulfilled desire that lingers until one is finally able to fulfil it.
This set of kids are also more likely to opt for the fastest and easiest way to achieve the object of their desire and to keep longing for more. The fear that someone else will get there before them and they will be left without is constant. They do not have access to same amount of resources and opportunities as the spoilt brat.
"Opportunity comes but once in a lifetime."
They may not even like that particular object, they may not even want it, but they still want to have it. Because the memories of the days that they lacked torment them, and they are scare that they might go back to living a life of penury. So they hoard and hoard.
They are greedy.
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The psychological make up of a spoilt brat is not so different from that of an Oliver Twist. The end result is the same: they want everything. What differs are the reasons behind the compulsion to have it all.
They both can't compartmentalize. However while the spoilt brat is still able to dispose, the Oliver Twist cannot.
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One, you don't give a child everything that they ask for, and, two, when they are old enough, they need to be taught that all those things that they were given did not come for free. Someone had worked for them because "nobody is born having it all."
Let your kids participate in cleaning the house. They must learn that if you want to have a clean house, then someone has to clean it. And that if you can't clean it by yourself, then you have to pay someone to clean it. And if you have to pay someone to clean for you, then you need to have money. Who's going to give you that money? You must work for it.
For kids born in penury the issue is a bit more complicated. The reason why they don't have any of the things they want is because their parents are poor.
Poverty is an extremely limiting factor when it comes to raising kids. It forces you to make too many sacrifices, besides making the task arduous. Penury is not the right condition to raise children.
Most criminals are not from comfortable backgrounds. They are from poor ones. They grew up in the streets. They started getting into trouble as soon as they were old enough to get out there to start hoarding.
So why aren't you thinking twice before having a baby?
Have you got money?
Have you got time?
Have you got emotional intelligence?
Have you got sufficient intelligence?
Have you got a healthy mind?
Every single one of these things matter. Whoever tells you that they don't is a liar and a miserable person.
Don't have kids if you can't take care of one. Don't.
"My parents gave me all I needed, now everybody else has to give me all I need".
Their sense of entitlement is out of this world, which is why, they could use both legitimate and illegitimate means to get what they want.
They do not have a sense of satiety since their desires are not subject to the laws of compartmentalization: what I want, what I need and what I need but I could do without for the time being.
Everything they want is everything they need. And everything they have cannot be disposed until they are able to replace it with something fancier.
They are avaricious.
---------------
Children who never got what they wanted or got just a little of it, will most likely have the same problem: the ability to differentiate what they want from what they need.
Since most of their desires were never fulfilled, they never possessed the object for the sufficient amount of time they needed to realise that they do not really need this.
While it's true that you cannot miss what you never had, you cannot also learn its usefulness or useleseness. So it becomes this unfulfilled desire that lingers until one is finally able to fulfil it.
This set of kids are also more likely to opt for the fastest and easiest way to achieve the object of their desire and to keep longing for more. The fear that someone else will get there before them and they will be left without is constant. They do not have access to same amount of resources and opportunities as the spoilt brat.
"Opportunity comes but once in a lifetime."
They may not even like that particular object, they may not even want it, but they still want to have it. Because the memories of the days that they lacked torment them, and they are scare that they might go back to living a life of penury. So they hoard and hoard.
They are greedy.
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The psychological make up of a spoilt brat is not so different from that of an Oliver Twist. The end result is the same: they want everything. What differs are the reasons behind the compulsion to have it all.
They both can't compartmentalize. However while the spoilt brat is still able to dispose, the Oliver Twist cannot.
----------------
One, you don't give a child everything that they ask for, and, two, when they are old enough, they need to be taught that all those things that they were given did not come for free. Someone had worked for them because "nobody is born having it all."
Let your kids participate in cleaning the house. They must learn that if you want to have a clean house, then someone has to clean it. And that if you can't clean it by yourself, then you have to pay someone to clean it. And if you have to pay someone to clean for you, then you need to have money. Who's going to give you that money? You must work for it.
For kids born in penury the issue is a bit more complicated. The reason why they don't have any of the things they want is because their parents are poor.
Poverty is an extremely limiting factor when it comes to raising kids. It forces you to make too many sacrifices, besides making the task arduous. Penury is not the right condition to raise children.
Most criminals are not from comfortable backgrounds. They are from poor ones. They grew up in the streets. They started getting into trouble as soon as they were old enough to get out there to start hoarding.
So why aren't you thinking twice before having a baby?
Have you got money?
Have you got time?
Have you got emotional intelligence?
Have you got sufficient intelligence?
Have you got a healthy mind?
Every single one of these things matter. Whoever tells you that they don't is a liar and a miserable person.
Don't have kids if you can't take care of one. Don't.
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