Have you ever heard a Nigerian man make a list of the qualities he wants in a woman?
Beautiful, fair, tall, figure 8, prayerful, submissive, obedient, virgin, perky boobs, etc.
Do you know the one aspect all of these qualities have in common? They are non essential qualities that simply appeal to his vanity. They serve no real life purpose. Having a woman who possesses all those qualities will not automatically translate to a life of comfort and well being for him.
I too want a man with certain qualities and some of those qualities only appeal to my aesthetic sense. However when it comes to the things that can actually affect my quality of life, I do not allow any room for debate.
How much a man earns as a criteria for his marriageability is not an object of debate: it is an objective fact that if you do not earn enough money, you will lack and you will suffer.
Yes, Nigeria is a tough country to live. Minimum wage is 18K. Blah blah blah. It's none of my business and that of the women who demand for more.
Even in the shithole that Nigeria is as a country, women still have the right to demand that any man who approaches them for marriage is not coming to them with the intention of making them poorer or stagnant.
There is nothing worse than having a man who comes into your life and depreciates it.
"He has potentials."
News flash: we all have potentials. I have the potentials of becoming a singer. At the age of ten I had the potentials of becoming a professional piano player. I have the potential of becoming a great actress, writer, stylist, etc.
But guess what? I am not any of these things at the moment. What you are now matters. If a woman decides to trust in your potentials, bear it in mind that she is taking a leap of faith that is even blinder than yours. Nobody owes you indisputable trust.
"A good woman builds together with her man."
I also know that beggars can't be choosers.
Women are not in this world to prove to anybody that they are angels. They do not owe you proof of virtuosity.
Women are human beings. They get hungry, cold, sick, needy, etc. They need money to take care of all these things. And they need to know that they will have the chance of taking care of these things if they get married to you.
The point of the matter is not if the woman is taking care of herself. The point of the matter is if you are taking care of yourself.
Even though a woman tells you: "You earn enough for me"; you are free to tell her: "You don't earn enough for me". It is as simple as that.
Calling women gold diggers because they don't want a 50K earner as a husband? Are you that poor? 50K is now the new 1 million. They should rename "Who wants to be a millionaire", "Who wants to be a thousandaire", since 50K is now such an exorbitant amount that warrants the gold digger tag for any woman who aspires to be married to a man who earns more than that.
Get off your high horse of the poor and virtuous. If you can't keep up with a woman's level of comfort or make it better, then stay away from her. Likewise, you can decide that you do not want a woman who won't do anything to improve your own condition.
You want to keep a woman in your house as your wife, mother of your children, housekeeper, cook, sex partner and future carer for your old and dying parents. You expect her to perform all these roles with your miserable less than 50K a month?
Get out.
All you wailers are mad. You feed your vanity with your nonsensical requirements from your future wives, but women make a request that literally impacts your life, and you are acting like an intellectual pauper.
Obviously, your poverty has also affected your brain. Oxygen is free, but who knows? You might be so poor that you are even saving on breathing.
GOLD DIGGING MY FOOT.
Beautiful, fair, tall, figure 8, prayerful, submissive, obedient, virgin, perky boobs, etc.
Do you know the one aspect all of these qualities have in common? They are non essential qualities that simply appeal to his vanity. They serve no real life purpose. Having a woman who possesses all those qualities will not automatically translate to a life of comfort and well being for him.
I too want a man with certain qualities and some of those qualities only appeal to my aesthetic sense. However when it comes to the things that can actually affect my quality of life, I do not allow any room for debate.
How much a man earns as a criteria for his marriageability is not an object of debate: it is an objective fact that if you do not earn enough money, you will lack and you will suffer.
Yes, Nigeria is a tough country to live. Minimum wage is 18K. Blah blah blah. It's none of my business and that of the women who demand for more.
Even in the shithole that Nigeria is as a country, women still have the right to demand that any man who approaches them for marriage is not coming to them with the intention of making them poorer or stagnant.
There is nothing worse than having a man who comes into your life and depreciates it.
"He has potentials."
News flash: we all have potentials. I have the potentials of becoming a singer. At the age of ten I had the potentials of becoming a professional piano player. I have the potential of becoming a great actress, writer, stylist, etc.
But guess what? I am not any of these things at the moment. What you are now matters. If a woman decides to trust in your potentials, bear it in mind that she is taking a leap of faith that is even blinder than yours. Nobody owes you indisputable trust.
"A good woman builds together with her man."
I also know that beggars can't be choosers.
Women are not in this world to prove to anybody that they are angels. They do not owe you proof of virtuosity.
Women are human beings. They get hungry, cold, sick, needy, etc. They need money to take care of all these things. And they need to know that they will have the chance of taking care of these things if they get married to you.
The point of the matter is not if the woman is taking care of herself. The point of the matter is if you are taking care of yourself.
Even though a woman tells you: "You earn enough for me"; you are free to tell her: "You don't earn enough for me". It is as simple as that.
Calling women gold diggers because they don't want a 50K earner as a husband? Are you that poor? 50K is now the new 1 million. They should rename "Who wants to be a millionaire", "Who wants to be a thousandaire", since 50K is now such an exorbitant amount that warrants the gold digger tag for any woman who aspires to be married to a man who earns more than that.
Get off your high horse of the poor and virtuous. If you can't keep up with a woman's level of comfort or make it better, then stay away from her. Likewise, you can decide that you do not want a woman who won't do anything to improve your own condition.
You want to keep a woman in your house as your wife, mother of your children, housekeeper, cook, sex partner and future carer for your old and dying parents. You expect her to perform all these roles with your miserable less than 50K a month?
Get out.
All you wailers are mad. You feed your vanity with your nonsensical requirements from your future wives, but women make a request that literally impacts your life, and you are acting like an intellectual pauper.
Obviously, your poverty has also affected your brain. Oxygen is free, but who knows? You might be so poor that you are even saving on breathing.
GOLD DIGGING MY FOOT.
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