A woman should strive to date a man who is within her league or above her league if her future plans see her rising up in league.
NEVER, EVER DATE BELOW YOUR LEAGUE. NEVER. It never ends well, and I will explain why in my next post.
However, there are some greedy ass ladies around. Ijeoma and Penocrat, I am talking about you. These ladies like them rich, smart and way too fine. And do you know what way too fine men like to do? They like to act cocky. So, we need to come up with a plan to humble them down.
Today's post is directed at women who are dating or married to men who are on the same league as them or way out of their league.
Do people ever see you and your partner and wonder how you managed to score a man like that?
Have you even been accused of using juju on your husband?
Stop feeling undermined. It is true: your man can do better than you, but you can make sure that he never does.
If you implement these tactics, your man will come to see you as the best thing since sliced bread.
1. Keep male friends.
One of the advice I give to women who are in a relationship with any man who is a bit arrogant, is to keep male friends: and not just any male friends, but male friends who would make awesome partners, even more than your boyfriend or husband.
You cannot control how people interact with you, but you can control how you interact with people.
Nothing says "woman of her own" better than a woman who has male friends she relates with on the SAME level.
First of all, make sure that all your discussions are interactive: you talk and make sense as much as they talk and make sense - if you talk more and make a bit more sense, it's even better.
Secondly, make sure that you are financially strong enough to take care of yourself and take care of them once in a while. This means that you'd often pay for dinner, buy them presents on their birthday, and yes, why not, loan them money from time to time.
Thirdly, do not flirt with them. Nothing causes "see finish" more than sex. Bring sex into the picture, and you and that person automatically start playing on an equal ground. For a lot of men, sex is the easiest way to devalue a woman, unless you get the man to fall in love with you. But who has time for that? Your male friends are women. They are in the friendzone and they will remain in the friendzone forever.
2. Do not flirt with lesser men.
You want to show your man that you are desirable? Well, a little flirting now and then is allowed, but make sure that these men are equal or superior to your partner.
If your partner is already way out of your league, then you have to aim even higher.
3. Do not brag about your admirers.
Nothing screams insecure loser more than bragging about the number of men who have asked for your number and who are dying to be with you. You are giving away that you know that you are dating or married to a man who is above your league. Don't do it.
4. If you must cheat, cheat up.
Cheating is bad, but do you know what is worse? Cheating with a man who is not as good as your partner or who is equally good. Why choose a plate of rice over a plate of rice? At least let the rice be prepared by a famous chef and let it have some friend plantain, salad and plenty meat on top. Don't be a tasteless and mediocre cheat.
Let me tell you something. Men do not have much respect for women, but they have a lot of respect for other men. Yes, they compete among themselves, but it's a respectful competition. A man knows those who are above him and those who are below him. The ones that he wouldn't fuck with and the ones he wouldn't want fucking with him.
If you cheat with a lesser male, you would have disrespected him and made him look like a lesser male among his peers. That would hurt him even more than the cheating and he would never forgive you for that.
But if you cheat with a higher male, he would be forced to think that perhaps, he is not the best you can do after all, and he would come to respect you more. He might not even break up with you. Instead, he might humble down and love you even more.
5. If caught cheating, be strategic.
You know how men talk shit about how the other woman is more humble and respectful than their wives? That's dumb. Objectively that is a dumb way to defend your cheating. It can help with a low self esteemed idiot, aka a Nigerian woman, but it won't work with a person who is drunk on ego, aka a Nigerian man or any man.
What you should focus on are other things.
"I am so sorry for what happened. I can't even explain it myself. One moment we were talking about the influence of Classicism in modern day art and the next moment we were in a room at Hotel Hilton making out. Perhaps it was his eyes."
In two sentences, you have told him that the man you cheated with is attractive, intelligent, cultured and rich.
You may not even have to apologise. He may be the one to apologise for not being good enough.
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Do you have any more ideas besides these ones? Let me know in the comment section.
NEVER, EVER DATE BELOW YOUR LEAGUE. NEVER. It never ends well, and I will explain why in my next post.
However, there are some greedy ass ladies around. Ijeoma and Penocrat, I am talking about you. These ladies like them rich, smart and way too fine. And do you know what way too fine men like to do? They like to act cocky. So, we need to come up with a plan to humble them down.
Today's post is directed at women who are dating or married to men who are on the same league as them or way out of their league.
Do people ever see you and your partner and wonder how you managed to score a man like that?
Have you even been accused of using juju on your husband?
Stop feeling undermined. It is true: your man can do better than you, but you can make sure that he never does.
If you implement these tactics, your man will come to see you as the best thing since sliced bread.
1. Keep male friends.
One of the advice I give to women who are in a relationship with any man who is a bit arrogant, is to keep male friends: and not just any male friends, but male friends who would make awesome partners, even more than your boyfriend or husband.
You cannot control how people interact with you, but you can control how you interact with people.
Nothing says "woman of her own" better than a woman who has male friends she relates with on the SAME level.
First of all, make sure that all your discussions are interactive: you talk and make sense as much as they talk and make sense - if you talk more and make a bit more sense, it's even better.
Secondly, make sure that you are financially strong enough to take care of yourself and take care of them once in a while. This means that you'd often pay for dinner, buy them presents on their birthday, and yes, why not, loan them money from time to time.
Thirdly, do not flirt with them. Nothing causes "see finish" more than sex. Bring sex into the picture, and you and that person automatically start playing on an equal ground. For a lot of men, sex is the easiest way to devalue a woman, unless you get the man to fall in love with you. But who has time for that? Your male friends are women. They are in the friendzone and they will remain in the friendzone forever.
2. Do not flirt with lesser men.
You want to show your man that you are desirable? Well, a little flirting now and then is allowed, but make sure that these men are equal or superior to your partner.
If your partner is already way out of your league, then you have to aim even higher.
3. Do not brag about your admirers.
Nothing screams insecure loser more than bragging about the number of men who have asked for your number and who are dying to be with you. You are giving away that you know that you are dating or married to a man who is above your league. Don't do it.
4. If you must cheat, cheat up.
Cheating is bad, but do you know what is worse? Cheating with a man who is not as good as your partner or who is equally good. Why choose a plate of rice over a plate of rice? At least let the rice be prepared by a famous chef and let it have some friend plantain, salad and plenty meat on top. Don't be a tasteless and mediocre cheat.
Let me tell you something. Men do not have much respect for women, but they have a lot of respect for other men. Yes, they compete among themselves, but it's a respectful competition. A man knows those who are above him and those who are below him. The ones that he wouldn't fuck with and the ones he wouldn't want fucking with him.
If you cheat with a lesser male, you would have disrespected him and made him look like a lesser male among his peers. That would hurt him even more than the cheating and he would never forgive you for that.
But if you cheat with a higher male, he would be forced to think that perhaps, he is not the best you can do after all, and he would come to respect you more. He might not even break up with you. Instead, he might humble down and love you even more.
5. If caught cheating, be strategic.
You know how men talk shit about how the other woman is more humble and respectful than their wives? That's dumb. Objectively that is a dumb way to defend your cheating. It can help with a low self esteemed idiot, aka a Nigerian woman, but it won't work with a person who is drunk on ego, aka a Nigerian man or any man.
What you should focus on are other things.
"I am so sorry for what happened. I can't even explain it myself. One moment we were talking about the influence of Classicism in modern day art and the next moment we were in a room at Hotel Hilton making out. Perhaps it was his eyes."
In two sentences, you have told him that the man you cheated with is attractive, intelligent, cultured and rich.
You may not even have to apologise. He may be the one to apologise for not being good enough.
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Do you have any more ideas besides these ones? Let me know in the comment section.
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