WOMEN DON'T HAVE A CHOICE IN A PATRIARCHY

The one lie the patriarchy tells women and that many unfortunate feminists keep promoting is that women have a choice in a patriarchal setting.

Let's go back to what Yul Edochie said. If he buys a car for his daughter, he'd first of all ask her what name should go on it; whether hers or her husband's. That itself is a form of manipulation. Yul Edochie would never ask his son that sort of question. He would buy the car in his son's name and give it to him.

By asking his daughter what name should go on a gift that is meant for her, he is instilling doubts in her mind and making her question her right to own a goddamn property by herself.

"For daddy to ask me this question, there must be a reason."

Dear woman, there is no reason whatsoever for your father, mother or anybody to ask you if they should register a gift they intend to present to you in your name or in someone else's name. The default way should be to buy the gift in your name, and if you so wish, then you can change the name to someone else's.

We need to start taking note of these subtle forms of coercion women are subjected to. They put us in the position of having to make a choice, hoping that we will make the choice that aligns with the patriarchy.

Now Yul Edochie asks his daughter, "What name should go on the car I want to buy for you?", and the daughter replies "Mine, of course." What judgement will Yul have of his daughter in regard to her "wife materialness"? For him to have asked her that question, it means that he was expecting her to answer "My husband's" or "Mine and my husband's".

Let's stop pretending that we don't know the game these men are playing. We are wiser than this. We should know.

You want to buy a gift for me? Then buy the gift for ME and stop asking stupid questions.