Sometime ago I wrote that the reason why many of you are not married is because you are not your spec's spec.
I came across a post where the poster asked the audience to list what they wanted their achievements to be in the next 3 years. Most of the women who commented listed as their number one achievement that of being married. But that was not the issue. The issue was that most of them wanted to be married to millionaires, billionaires, successful men, good men, etc.
I wondered, how many of these women actually qualified to be married to these men.
The truth is it doesn't make sense for a man who is a millionaire, a billionaire or successful business mogul to go for a basic woman who can't even afford to buy the China in his house.
Very few of you will get lucky and you will get married to a man who has it all; but a few years down the line you will start facing a situation where you are just in this marriage and you've got everything you need but you are also miserable. And that's because you are not on the same level with that man to question his decisions and conduct.
Like I said, it doesn't make sense for a man to go far below his class, level or league to get married unless he is looking for someone he can easily control. I have written about this several times and I will never stop saying it: women need to get married to men that are on the same class with them or with men who are above their class but with whom they can catch up in a few years.
Nigerian women are not realistic with their goals. Just like the men they are delusional. Nigerian men believe that they can have any woman they want as long as they have a penis; while Nigerian women believe that all they need is have a pair of breasts, firm buttocks and a pretty face and the men will come splashing their millions on them.
As a woman you need financial security in every relationship you involved yourself. You need to protect yourself from literally everybody: your family, your workplace, strangers and also from your spouse if he ever goes loco.
Stop dreaming and start planning. You have the right to desire any kind of man you want but these men also have the right to desire the kind of woman they want. And it could happen and it happens very often that you are not the kind of woman they want. So you need to level up.
It is not a matter of prayer, it is not a matter of faith, it is not a matter of luck. It is a matter of hard work. If you want to marry a successful man then you must strive to be successful yourself, if you want your union with that man to stand the chance of being successful.
That is how you become your spec's spec.
I came across a post where the poster asked the audience to list what they wanted their achievements to be in the next 3 years. Most of the women who commented listed as their number one achievement that of being married. But that was not the issue. The issue was that most of them wanted to be married to millionaires, billionaires, successful men, good men, etc.
I wondered, how many of these women actually qualified to be married to these men.
The truth is it doesn't make sense for a man who is a millionaire, a billionaire or successful business mogul to go for a basic woman who can't even afford to buy the China in his house.
Very few of you will get lucky and you will get married to a man who has it all; but a few years down the line you will start facing a situation where you are just in this marriage and you've got everything you need but you are also miserable. And that's because you are not on the same level with that man to question his decisions and conduct.
Like I said, it doesn't make sense for a man to go far below his class, level or league to get married unless he is looking for someone he can easily control. I have written about this several times and I will never stop saying it: women need to get married to men that are on the same class with them or with men who are above their class but with whom they can catch up in a few years.
Nigerian women are not realistic with their goals. Just like the men they are delusional. Nigerian men believe that they can have any woman they want as long as they have a penis; while Nigerian women believe that all they need is have a pair of breasts, firm buttocks and a pretty face and the men will come splashing their millions on them.
As a woman you need financial security in every relationship you involved yourself. You need to protect yourself from literally everybody: your family, your workplace, strangers and also from your spouse if he ever goes loco.
Stop dreaming and start planning. You have the right to desire any kind of man you want but these men also have the right to desire the kind of woman they want. And it could happen and it happens very often that you are not the kind of woman they want. So you need to level up.
It is not a matter of prayer, it is not a matter of faith, it is not a matter of luck. It is a matter of hard work. If you want to marry a successful man then you must strive to be successful yourself, if you want your union with that man to stand the chance of being successful.
That is how you become your spec's spec.
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