During my saga with the Hateful Tongue and Ugly Boy, I was used to hearing so much shit about her. Even though I wasn't part of the circle, I still knew someone who knew someone that was a member.
The people who started and spread these rumours were people who had practically nothing going on in their lives.
The majority of them were illegal immigrants, who because of their status, could not work and had to do illegal jobs to get by. They earned their money through prostitution, drugs and credit cards. Some even resorted to shoplifting and begging to feed themselves. They owed rent and could go as far as connecting their meters to someone else's just to avoid paying electricity bill (a lady did this to my mother). Most of them were gathered in one of the most impoverished estates in that city.
Those who were lucky to be legal sometimes did not a job and the ones that were legal and had jobs still struggled to make ends meet because they had to show off to other people.
At the end of the day, illegal or legal, occupied or jobless, they still came together to say shit about everybody, including members of that same group because, in spite of their differences, misery was their common denominator.
Everybody could be the object of their lies. I was, my mother was, even that same Hateful Tongue who sat with them to talk shit about me and other people was, and somehow these lies always managed to find their way to the surface.
During those three years I knew that girl, I heard all manners of shit about her. And some of that shit came from her trusted friend. But to be honest, I had no interest or business believing that rubbish. What would it add to my life to pick up the phone, call a friend and start downloading all the nasty info I heard about her that day? That shit would have been pathetic.
She, on the other hand was more than happy to listen to crap about me and spread it. She even cooked some up.
I do not believe in bringing people down to make myself look good or better. Right from time, I have always owned my shit and done my bits. An average child who grows up in Nigeria or with Nigerian parents learns to lie about him or herself and against other people from a very young age. It is a defence mechanism they learn to avoid being punished. As adults, they carry on lying to avoid harsh judgements and comments and to impress others. They inflate their achievements and they downgrade those of other people's.
People who cook up and peddle lies are children stuck in adults bodies. They haven't attain the level of confidence they should have as adults. Liars feel a sense of inadequacy, coupled with low self esteem and envy.
They see someone, they want to be like that someone, but they think or know that they can never be like that someone. Also they have to deal with people constantly praising and lauding that someone. An adult with a healthy self esteem would grow admiration and he or she would walk up to that someone and ask him or her: "I like you, I like what you are doing. Teach me how to do it."
But the messed up adults? No. They grow envious. They will sit down and talk trash about that someone. They will make it the purpose of their lives to make sure that everybody they know hates and dislikes that someone.
You see this bullshit about some dude sleeping with seven or nine women, all friends and about some of these women being related?
I know five of those women and they are all extraordinary women. They are women who are making names for themselves. They are not your average Mary and Jane. They are women who rose against all odds and became winners who are still winning.
But the people who started these rumours and those carrying them about? They are either nobodies and/or people who have had beefs with these women in the past.
It's pathetic how supposedly respectable adults can stoop so low to peddle lies just to make themselves feel better. Does your life suck that much? Are you in such a bad place where nothing is happening? How about you work on it instead of trying to throw mud at someone who is far ahead of you in life?
One thing you liars and rumour mongers need to know is that they people you hate and envy are succeeding because they do not belong in the same place as you. Their lives do not have roots where yours do. Their friends are not your friends. Their families are not your friends. If they decide that do not want to frequent those places you frequent, mingle with those friends and relatives you have managed to win over and do the things you think people have to do to be relevant, they will still be winning. Because they have made themselves relevant in the world.
You liars live in a bubble and you can only survive inside that bubble. That is where your relevance starts and ends.
You all need to get your heads out of your asses and do a mental and character evaluation because, trust me, this whole situation says more about you than it says about the people you are trying to defame.
She won't stop being a lawyer and won't be disbarred because of your lies.
She won't lose her talent, skills or customers because of your lies.
She won't stop getting roles because of your lies.
She won't lose her scholarship and be deported back to Nigeria because of your lies.
She won't lose that modelling job or her customers because of your lies.
But you, you will remain sad, empty and green as long as you keep telling those lies. You are nothing and you will remain nothing.
And this is not blind loyalty. This is being able to recognise gold amidst tons of shit. Just because these women roll with you, play with you and are all active on the same cyber space does not mean you are all playing in the same league.
You aren't and you will never be.
Las las, you all won't be all right.
The people who started and spread these rumours were people who had practically nothing going on in their lives.
The majority of them were illegal immigrants, who because of their status, could not work and had to do illegal jobs to get by. They earned their money through prostitution, drugs and credit cards. Some even resorted to shoplifting and begging to feed themselves. They owed rent and could go as far as connecting their meters to someone else's just to avoid paying electricity bill (a lady did this to my mother). Most of them were gathered in one of the most impoverished estates in that city.
Those who were lucky to be legal sometimes did not a job and the ones that were legal and had jobs still struggled to make ends meet because they had to show off to other people.
At the end of the day, illegal or legal, occupied or jobless, they still came together to say shit about everybody, including members of that same group because, in spite of their differences, misery was their common denominator.
Everybody could be the object of their lies. I was, my mother was, even that same Hateful Tongue who sat with them to talk shit about me and other people was, and somehow these lies always managed to find their way to the surface.
During those three years I knew that girl, I heard all manners of shit about her. And some of that shit came from her trusted friend. But to be honest, I had no interest or business believing that rubbish. What would it add to my life to pick up the phone, call a friend and start downloading all the nasty info I heard about her that day? That shit would have been pathetic.
She, on the other hand was more than happy to listen to crap about me and spread it. She even cooked some up.
I do not believe in bringing people down to make myself look good or better. Right from time, I have always owned my shit and done my bits. An average child who grows up in Nigeria or with Nigerian parents learns to lie about him or herself and against other people from a very young age. It is a defence mechanism they learn to avoid being punished. As adults, they carry on lying to avoid harsh judgements and comments and to impress others. They inflate their achievements and they downgrade those of other people's.
People who cook up and peddle lies are children stuck in adults bodies. They haven't attain the level of confidence they should have as adults. Liars feel a sense of inadequacy, coupled with low self esteem and envy.
They see someone, they want to be like that someone, but they think or know that they can never be like that someone. Also they have to deal with people constantly praising and lauding that someone. An adult with a healthy self esteem would grow admiration and he or she would walk up to that someone and ask him or her: "I like you, I like what you are doing. Teach me how to do it."
But the messed up adults? No. They grow envious. They will sit down and talk trash about that someone. They will make it the purpose of their lives to make sure that everybody they know hates and dislikes that someone.
You see this bullshit about some dude sleeping with seven or nine women, all friends and about some of these women being related?
I know five of those women and they are all extraordinary women. They are women who are making names for themselves. They are not your average Mary and Jane. They are women who rose against all odds and became winners who are still winning.
But the people who started these rumours and those carrying them about? They are either nobodies and/or people who have had beefs with these women in the past.
It's pathetic how supposedly respectable adults can stoop so low to peddle lies just to make themselves feel better. Does your life suck that much? Are you in such a bad place where nothing is happening? How about you work on it instead of trying to throw mud at someone who is far ahead of you in life?
One thing you liars and rumour mongers need to know is that they people you hate and envy are succeeding because they do not belong in the same place as you. Their lives do not have roots where yours do. Their friends are not your friends. Their families are not your friends. If they decide that do not want to frequent those places you frequent, mingle with those friends and relatives you have managed to win over and do the things you think people have to do to be relevant, they will still be winning. Because they have made themselves relevant in the world.
You liars live in a bubble and you can only survive inside that bubble. That is where your relevance starts and ends.
You all need to get your heads out of your asses and do a mental and character evaluation because, trust me, this whole situation says more about you than it says about the people you are trying to defame.
She won't stop being a lawyer and won't be disbarred because of your lies.
She won't lose her talent, skills or customers because of your lies.
She won't stop getting roles because of your lies.
She won't lose her scholarship and be deported back to Nigeria because of your lies.
She won't lose that modelling job or her customers because of your lies.
But you, you will remain sad, empty and green as long as you keep telling those lies. You are nothing and you will remain nothing.
And this is not blind loyalty. This is being able to recognise gold amidst tons of shit. Just because these women roll with you, play with you and are all active on the same cyber space does not mean you are all playing in the same league.
You aren't and you will never be.
Las las, you all won't be all right.
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