Unlike what most Nigerians think, submissiveness is not a female trait but a human trait and both men and women can possess it.
There are submissive men and there are submissive women. These people generally lack leadership skills and are constantly seeking validation from friends, family, lovers, colleagues or even strangers. They are unable to act autonomously and lack a sense of individuality. They are always in and out of relationships and most of their friendships serve the purpose of instilling them with confidence which they lack as the result of being naturally timid.
Then there are the alphas. Alphas are men and women who possess a very strong personality and presence. They are able to pull the crowd and create very strong bonds with other people. Because of their autonomy and strong sense of individuality, people are easily drawn to them as well as having a lot of trust in them.
When we look at history we will find a lot of alpha males but very few alpha females. Why?
Well, that's because alpha females are not beneficial to patriarchy. They are too strong to control and can easily revolt and overturn the status quo. That's the reason why women are groomed to be submissive.
What happened to those women who managed to remain untamed? Well, that's an easy question. In history, they were almost completely erased. As for modern times, look at the country where you live. What happens to women who have strong personalities, are assertive and unwilling to bend to unprofitable social demands?
I got into a lot of fights, both online and offline - and I lived in the West. Alpha women that live in Nigeria go through worse. They suffer marginalisation, discrimination and deprivation. They can even suffer violence and get killed.
You don't have much choice if you are a woman in Nigeria. No matter how high you have managed to reach, as a woman you must submit to a man, no matter how basic and mediocre he is.
Do you know how many times I have been told to "come down" for them, with them being men? Because it is a general belief that being submissive is a female prerogative and that there is something fundamentally wrong with women who don't submit.
But that's false. Men can be submissive too. Even as patriarchal as Nigeria is, there are men who still rely on other people to make decisions. These men, when they are in relationship, are then expected to suddenly grow the confidence to "lead" a woman even though they do not possess any sort of leadership skills. What happens when such man fails to earn the trust of his partner? He becomes frustrated and resorts to physical and emotional blackmail to subdue her.
He will quote the Bible, mention culture and bully her into submission. However the truth remains that he lacks the alpha gene.
Feminism is bae. Feminism has triggered the awakening of many Nigerian alpha females who had undergone grooming and become dorment.
These women respond of and to themselves and they do not make excuses for men. The devil, side chicks, unruly in-laws, intrusive relations don't stand a chance in these women's lives. Even when they lose, they win.
That is what alphas do: men and women alike.
Leadership has never been and will never be about the sex of a person.
There are submissive men and there are submissive women. These people generally lack leadership skills and are constantly seeking validation from friends, family, lovers, colleagues or even strangers. They are unable to act autonomously and lack a sense of individuality. They are always in and out of relationships and most of their friendships serve the purpose of instilling them with confidence which they lack as the result of being naturally timid.
Then there are the alphas. Alphas are men and women who possess a very strong personality and presence. They are able to pull the crowd and create very strong bonds with other people. Because of their autonomy and strong sense of individuality, people are easily drawn to them as well as having a lot of trust in them.
When we look at history we will find a lot of alpha males but very few alpha females. Why?
Well, that's because alpha females are not beneficial to patriarchy. They are too strong to control and can easily revolt and overturn the status quo. That's the reason why women are groomed to be submissive.
What happened to those women who managed to remain untamed? Well, that's an easy question. In history, they were almost completely erased. As for modern times, look at the country where you live. What happens to women who have strong personalities, are assertive and unwilling to bend to unprofitable social demands?
I got into a lot of fights, both online and offline - and I lived in the West. Alpha women that live in Nigeria go through worse. They suffer marginalisation, discrimination and deprivation. They can even suffer violence and get killed.
You don't have much choice if you are a woman in Nigeria. No matter how high you have managed to reach, as a woman you must submit to a man, no matter how basic and mediocre he is.
Do you know how many times I have been told to "come down" for them, with them being men? Because it is a general belief that being submissive is a female prerogative and that there is something fundamentally wrong with women who don't submit.
But that's false. Men can be submissive too. Even as patriarchal as Nigeria is, there are men who still rely on other people to make decisions. These men, when they are in relationship, are then expected to suddenly grow the confidence to "lead" a woman even though they do not possess any sort of leadership skills. What happens when such man fails to earn the trust of his partner? He becomes frustrated and resorts to physical and emotional blackmail to subdue her.
He will quote the Bible, mention culture and bully her into submission. However the truth remains that he lacks the alpha gene.
Feminism is bae. Feminism has triggered the awakening of many Nigerian alpha females who had undergone grooming and become dorment.
These women respond of and to themselves and they do not make excuses for men. The devil, side chicks, unruly in-laws, intrusive relations don't stand a chance in these women's lives. Even when they lose, they win.
That is what alphas do: men and women alike.
Leadership has never been and will never be about the sex of a person.
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