Nigerians are not used to women who have standards. They do not know how to act around them or even what to do with them.
As far as the society goes, these women are just free radicals who need to be shut down and alienated from other women so that they do not infect their more accommodating counterparts with their spirit of demand.
Women with standards will lose a lot in their lives, but they will never lose themselves.
They will lose their families because that is the first place where they will be asked to lower their standards just so they can be seen as good daughters and sisters to their parents and siblings respectively.
They will have bitter memories of their days in school for the many times that they were not given their dues simply because they are females.
They will quit many jobs and struggle to pay their bills because their employers cannot see beyond their sex and always end up locking them in that gender box.
They will experience heartbreaks and countless failed relationships because the men won't love and treat them in the way that they deserve.
They will live a life of isolation and find the company of the average Nigerian woman intolerable.
They will be called stubborn, unruly, arrogant and "not wife material" because they have learned to see themselves first of all as human beings and persons with dignity.
These women demand to be accorded the respect that they deserve as fundamental members of the society. They want their sex to be seen as a secondary attribute because in the end, their humanity is what has brought them to the stage they are in life today, and not their reproductive organs.
A woman with standards is a person of her own making. She speaks a language only few people can understand, for that reason you will find out that she is not a particularly social personal or someone who keeps many friends.
A woman with standards is a woman who is capable of change. She is never the same person she was yesterday and nobody who meets and interacts with her leaves without having experienced part of that change.
She questions the society.
She changes the society.
She is a goddess of destruction for all the walls that she will dismantle, as well as being a goddess of creation for all the bridges that she will build.
A woman with standards is the only woman who can save herself and any other woman who wants to be saved.
As far as the society goes, these women are just free radicals who need to be shut down and alienated from other women so that they do not infect their more accommodating counterparts with their spirit of demand.
Women with standards will lose a lot in their lives, but they will never lose themselves.
They will lose their families because that is the first place where they will be asked to lower their standards just so they can be seen as good daughters and sisters to their parents and siblings respectively.
They will have bitter memories of their days in school for the many times that they were not given their dues simply because they are females.
They will quit many jobs and struggle to pay their bills because their employers cannot see beyond their sex and always end up locking them in that gender box.
They will experience heartbreaks and countless failed relationships because the men won't love and treat them in the way that they deserve.
They will live a life of isolation and find the company of the average Nigerian woman intolerable.
They will be called stubborn, unruly, arrogant and "not wife material" because they have learned to see themselves first of all as human beings and persons with dignity.
These women demand to be accorded the respect that they deserve as fundamental members of the society. They want their sex to be seen as a secondary attribute because in the end, their humanity is what has brought them to the stage they are in life today, and not their reproductive organs.
A woman with standards is a person of her own making. She speaks a language only few people can understand, for that reason you will find out that she is not a particularly social personal or someone who keeps many friends.
A woman with standards is a woman who is capable of change. She is never the same person she was yesterday and nobody who meets and interacts with her leaves without having experienced part of that change.
She questions the society.
She changes the society.
She is a goddess of destruction for all the walls that she will dismantle, as well as being a goddess of creation for all the bridges that she will build.
A woman with standards is the only woman who can save herself and any other woman who wants to be saved.
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