A WOMAN CANNOT USE A MAN IN A PATRIARCHY

You always brag about how you can make a man do anything you want.

But you come from a society where:

1. A man can have all the sex he wants, while you are expected to get married as a virgin and forgo sex forever if your husband dies prematurely;

2. You are called a prostitute for simply existing as a woman;

3. It's expected of a man to spend his money on women. Who else otherwise?

There are countries where women use men, but Nigeria is not one of them. Nigeria is a country where women "use" men to make their money then publicly deny that it happened like that. Because they know that it won't do well to their reputation. They know that they will be seen as the ones who were used by these men instead. 

Nigerian women who engage in any form of sex work do not want to be associated with that line of business. Sex workers are not even considered humans.

Meanwhile In other countries, the West for example, women wear that gold digging badge with honour. Why? Because, women enjoy sex as much as men and men are not expected to spend their money on women.

For a man to use his money as a bargaining chip for sex, it means that he's a loser. 

I'm not saying that women do not date or marry men for their money in these countries, but no man will openly admit it. Are you saying that his charm is not enough to attract such a beautiful woman?

That's the difference between countries where women are liberated and countries where women are not.

You can't use a man if he's doing what he's expected to do.